I wanted to answer this question that people ask me, “Andrea, how do you do it? How do you have it all?” First, I don’t have it all. Second, It isn’t just me, I have an amazing support system. My parents, my team, friends and my ghostwriter are all part of my support system. Since I have this support I can go after everything I want to do in life and I am so grateful. Having it all is whatever you want it to be!
In this episode, we’ll cover
- Growing up believing I could do anything
- What it means to “have it all”
- Support systems for your life
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Episode 198: What it Means to Have it All Transcript
Andrea: [00:00:03] Welcome to the Legalpreneur podcast. I’m your host, Andrea Sager, founder and CEO of Legalpreneur, Inc. As a serial entrepreneur and someone that works exclusively with small business owners legally protecting their business, I’m dedicated to covering common legal issues faced by business owners, providing you with the business knowledge you need to catapult your businesses growth and showing you just how some of the world’s most elite entrepreneurs have handled these legal and business issues themselves in true attorney fashion. The information in this episode is not legal advice. This is for informational purposes only, and you should always consult with your attorney before implementing any of the information in the show.
Andrea: [00:00:46] Hello. Happy Friday. Welcome back to another episode of the Legalpreneur podcast. I’m really excited about today’s episode because I’m going to talk about quote unquote having it all and what that really looks like for me, because I do get a lot of questions about how do you do it all like you do so much, how do you do this? Like, how do you manage all of this in your single mom? So I’m going to cover all of that, like give you the actual reality of it because I like, I don’t do it all I like. It’s not just me, but I’m going to give you a sneak peek. But of course, dream bigger. In case you missed it, our flash sale for Dream Bigger is now over. That crazy good deal that you’ll never see again. It’s gone, however. Tickets are actually now 50% off. General VIP. Whatever you want. 50% off. Get them now because this event is going to sell out. I don’t know when, however, it will sell out. We are so excited for this. We have Ali Webb, Danielle Canty, Pauleanna Reid. We have Chris Harder, Laurie Harder and so many more big names that are going to be announced soon.
Andrea: [00:02:00] So stay tuned. But for now, go get your ticket 50% Off and get those rooms booked as well. I cannot wait to see you in Phoenix on October 5th and 7th. Okay. So having it all. What is having it all mean? So first of all, I don’t think I have it all. Well, what I thought was quote unquote, having it all in my head growing up was being married forever and having the kids and the beautiful life and the nice house and like all the beautiful things that look beautiful from the outside looking in. Let me tell you guys, I had that and I don’t think I was ever truly happy there. For many reasons. As most of you know, in September 2020, I left my ex husband and I can’t tell you how many people were dumbfounded. They were flabbergasted. They couldn’t believe that I left this perfect, quote unquote perfect situation. And it was far from perfect. And one thing that I’ve learned, being a business attorney is many. Business owners that you think have it all look so beautiful from the outside looking in their life is everything. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. You guys, everybody has their own demons. Everybody has their own stories. And I’m just going to let you in on a little bit of the back end of my life, because I don’t want people to think that I have it all. I just make it all work and I am not perfect. I talk I talk about my trauma on here, all this stuff that I’m healing. I try to lay it all out there because I don’t want people to think that like I did anything special or I had this special upbringing or I have the specialty, like it is what it is because I made it that way.
Andrea: [00:04:04] You guys, my parents. Like I’m the only person in my family to graduate from high school, let alone go to college. Law school, like my. Like nobody in my family, my parents, my brother. They all dropped out of high school. They all have their GED. And eventually, my dad actually did go back to get his high school diploma. But they all they’re all dropouts and. When I tell people this, like, well, like how like, how are you where you are? And I’m like, I believed my parents. When they told me I could do anything. That is the only thing that I. Well, first of all, I think I was very lucky to have parents that did tell me that. That did tell me, hey, you can do anything you want. And then I believed them. I believed that I could do anything I wanted. So that’s what I’m doing. I’m just doing anything I want. Whenever I started to slow things down with a law firm in order to go all in with Legalpreneur, I didn’t have to. I mean, we were. I was making more than enough money to be comfortable. But I was getting to be content and I was good. And Chris Harder always tells me, “Good is the enemy of great.” I’m like, You know what? We’re here for one life.
Andrea: [00:05:22] And why not? Why not? See if I can build Legalpreneur. If I can build it up and be this billion dollar company, this dream that I have to be $1,000,000,000 company. Why not? So. Late last year, in 2021, I felt very I keep saying this. I felt called to do this call to do that. So I had a number of things in my heart, and most people may do one or two of those things, but I was just like, We’re going to do it all this year. Like we’re going to go do it all. So. And now officially divorced. Single mom, two kids, two beautiful kiddos. Love them so much. I may. You know what I think I’m going to do? I’m going to do an episode with my kids. Interview them. That’ll be fun. So, single mom, two kids. I do not do it alone. There’s absolutely no way. However, I will say that having 5050 with my kids, with their dad is great because when I have my kids, I don’t work like I do not work. I don’t touch my laptop like I don’t answer emails. I am barely on social media like I am, but I’m not like. Creating very much content. Usually it’s just like silly pictures with them. But when I don’t have my kids, I can like 100% throw myself into work and fully be dedicated to that. But besides that, if you listen to the past couple of episodes, you’ll know that I am now living with my parents.
Andrea: [00:06:52] I’ve been with them for a few weeks now, and before that they were still a huge help. They would pick up the kids from school because I was living about 45 minutes away from where they’re going to school and where my parents live and where their dad lives. Because, you know me, I was just like, Oh, I’m going to go live on this other side of Houston and see what it’s like for a year. And so I did that and now I’m back. So my parents have always helped me out a lot and they’re wonderful. So hands down, like my parents are a huge, huge help. I. And now that I’m living with my parents, it’s almost like I have that stay at home. Like if I if I was married, it was like I had a stay at home spouse that was actually supportive. Because my dad, he’s retired and he is the backbone. He does the laundry. He helps everything with the kids and he loves it. Oh, my gosh. He loves it and they love him. They love it. But number one, like, how do I do it all? Like my parents, especially my dad, like such a huge help. There’s no way I could do what I do without him. So, you know, I’m writing the book that’ll be out in October. Super, super excited about that. Oh, my gosh. I just had my book meeting. My book cover meeting. It’s getting real, like, really real. And I’m about to spend the weekend I’m going to not this weekend, but next weekend I’m going to go and edit the book, do my own edits so me go lock myself into a hotel.
Andrea: [00:08:24] But what I’ve said, like, I’m not I’m not the one actually writing the book. You guys, I have a ghostwriter with everything that we’re doing. Like I still have the law firm. We’re still like operating that. The goal is to build up legal preneur to where we don’t need the law firm at all anymore. And we don’t need any income from the law firm, so we can just let that go. But I’m still running the law firm. Then we have Legalpreneur where we’re building that like we’re actively building, growing, trying to scale. And it’s a startup like it’s going from like a small business owner to startup life crazy. And I’m going to do an episode very soon. Like that transition from small business owner to startup CEO. It is a transition 100%. It is a lot tougher than I thought it would be. But like, I’m getting it done. We’re getting it done over here. So doing that plus writing the book plus dream bigger, getting that event done and all of it. I’m not doing anything alone. Going from small business owner to startup CEO. I still have my team. I still have employees. I don’t do any of it alone. And then for the book, of course, I have a ghostwriter for the event. I have an event planner. Like, it is not just me.
Andrea: [00:09:42] I’m supported in everything that I do. But I will tell you, I know I did mention this a couple of weeks ago, that living with my parents, I really feel like the universe wanted me to be in this position of living with my parents again, to be around my dad and my parents, to know what it’s like again, to be supported. Like this, because when I was with my ex-husband, unfortunately, I did not have that support. And this is not a bashing session about him, but we just weren’t a good match. And my dad. Oh, my gosh, living with my dad is so amazing. And I’m so grateful, so lucky to actually have parents that welcome us with open arms, me and the kiddos, and to have a dad that’s retired who loves to take care of us. Oh, I’m so grateful. And right. I was really sad. Like the weeks leading up to moving in, I was like, I’m taking this step back. I have to move in with my parents. But honestly, you guys. This is the absolute best thing that could have ever happened. And once I chose to get excited about it, instead of being sad, and that’s when things slowly started falling into place. So I moved in with my parents because I’m waiting. So I moved from that house that was 45 minutes away. And then I have the house that my ex used to live in that’s for sale. And we finally got a contract. And this is the fourth contract that we’ve had on the house.
Andrea: [00:11:15] That’s the fourth contract. And finally we made it past the inspection period. So because it needs updates and I was just going to update it myself and then sell it, but then finally this person came along and they’re like, Hey, we’ll buy it, we’ll make the repairs. Our cell phone’s like, Hey, you can take this contract, but you got to know I’m not making any concessions here like it needs updates. You’re going to have to put some money into it so they’re all in. Looks like we’re going to make it to closing, so. I could move out of my parent’s house after that house closes, but I don’t know if I want to. You guys, like I’m so supported and I feel so just seen and really supported is the biggest thing. I feel so supported at my parent’s house, how long I’m going to stay in my parents. I might try to stick this out as long as I can. I also have big savings goals now because I told you guys that I was like in a great position or I was in a good position. Now I’m not I don’t like, I just don’t have any savings. And that all got depleted going through the divorce. So now I’m just like, okay, I have my goal, I’ll tell you. So my goal is to have $100,000 saved before I buy a house. A lot of that is going to come from the sell of this other house. I’m going to really try to stick to those savings goals because I, I just have a new, like entirely new outlook on a lot of things.
Andrea: [00:12:43] And yeah, I want to have. A good amount of savings. Okay. So I know I’m just like rambling at this point, but I don’t have it all like I think, yes, I do have it all because I like in my viewpoint, like it’s everything that I want right now, but I don’t have this wonderful husband that I get to come home to. And like, by the way, I never want to get remarried. I want a life partner, but I don’t want to get remarried. But I do get to come home to my dad. That’s great. My mom, she’s great, too, of course, my kids. But I have two beautiful, loving kids, two beautiful, loving parents. And I have great friends. Like, I have literally everything that I could want and need. So life is good in the traditional sense. I mean, I have it all. I mean, I live at home with my parents. But I think life is great, really. I just wanted this episode to do this episode to remind you guys like having it all is whatever you think having it all is. Like, it doesn’t have to be like the white picket fence, get married and have two kids, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It’s whatever you want it to be. And so figure out what makes you happy and go do that. Go make that happen. All right. And now I’ll see you guys.
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